For any endeavor to be successful, there are always PEOPLE involved! No one can become wealthy in any facet of their life….alone. One contributing factor to your success will be how well you build relationships, and stay in touch with people, long term. It has been said, “your network determines your net worth.”
Now, you probably want rich relationships in all facets of your life, don’t you? Not just business relationships that make you wealthy, right? Of course!
Let’s examine the various facets of your life, and consider the relationships who are involved in that aspect of your life.
There are basically two catagories to your life; External Facets, and Internal Facets. External facets are those over which you have less control, or influence. The Internal facets are those over which you have more control, or influence.
The External Facets are: Your Family, Your Spouse or Partner, Your Friendships, Your Church Related Duties, and Your Civic Participation, or Volunteering.
The Internal Facet catagories are Your Economic Concerns, Your Material Needs, Your Leisure Activities, Your Spiritual Pursuits, and Your Physical Health.
One way to begin to build relationships that will sustain all of these aspects of your life is to consider whom you know, or could meet, that is already successful in that aspect of their life, and contact them, asking them if they would be willing to meet with you at a local diner or somewhere, or via e-mail communication, and solicit their assistance by telling you what their “secrets of success” may be. Now, don’t immediately dismiss this idea! Think about it; If someone called you and said, “My name is ____________. I am in a personal development course, and one aspect of my life that I would like to strengthen is _______________(fill in the blank with a category that they are known to be successful in). Johnny (referring friend, if there is one) has expressed that YOU are already very successful in your family relationships, and I was wondering if I could “pick your brain” for a few minutes, and if you’d share with me a few pointers of how you do it?” Would you feel annoyed? More likely, you’d feel honored, and compassionate toward the person! Also, consider this; Most people LOVE stroking their own ego by talking about what they’ve done that has made them successful! And this will be very valuable for you!
When you do this, you’ll be forming a mastermind of support! I have seen many very important relationships established that have helped me in my life, through doing this very thing! I have even seen the honored person choose to take the student under their wing, and mentor them!
Now, when you’re doing this, think of people from each category who are successful in that area of their life; The successful father, the happy marriage, the wealthy entrepreneur, the person with robust energy and health, the person who always goes cruising each spring, the civic volunteer who manages to have plenty of time,etc. PICK THEIR BRAIN! An example I’ll share with you from my own life is the time I called a woman who is known to be a “socialite” in our community, and I explained to her that I wanted to find some enriching activities that our family could share, and I asked her how she found out about all the free concerts in our town, the art exhibits, the community lectures, the plays, etc. She was SO HELPFUL, and I was amazed at all the resources she told me about for finding such activities! There were websites I had not heard of, a community billboard at the city offices I could check, a blog in our city library website, a whole entire community calendar I hadn’t known existed! It was amazing! And many of the activities were completely FREE! Our family built lots of great memories as a result that interaction.
The people you call and request to become your “mastermind” group leaders will inspire you, and help you learn tidbits of information that you can use in building that aspect of your life. Add these people to your e-mail lists, as well, and stay in touch with them over time. Never underestimate the power of long term relationships! These people, as well as everyone else you’ve met and built rapport with, will become a wealth of resources for your life.
DO IT! IT WORKS!
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